The ocean and I will always be the best of friends.
I throw myself into its waiting arms with reckless abandon, like an overeager lover.
Overeager, overwhelming, over dramatic, over enthusiastic, too much. You name it, I’ve been called it. I love fast. I love hard. I know it, I try to calm it. But calming my desire, my need, to love others deeply, truly, wildly, is like trying to calm the ocean’s waves.
Impossible, and quite honestly, a stupid thing to attempt.
I spend a lot of time at the ocean now that it is 45 minutes from my house. (In case you missed it, I moved to Florida a month ago. Despite the numerous tearful goodbyes I said, it seems I sort of left without announcing it. Anyhow, now you know).
The ocean and I have rekindled our love affair and man is it exhilarating.
The ocean may be the only thing I’ve ever loved that hasn’t let me down. The only thing I can throw myself into and know that it will always catch me.
The ocean may toss me around a little bit. I may tumble within a wave or have my legs scraped up by the sand on its floor, but it also supports me. It is also the only place I feel entirely free. It is the only place I don’t have to worry about my joints failing me. It is the only place I can let go of my need for control.
I can hand control over to the ocean and just relax.
My body is supported by the water, and I move easily over the gentle waves.
When the rough ones come, I throw myself into them, back arched moving along with the currents.
I’ve crashed and burned enough times. My heart has been bruised, beaten, taken for granted, drug through the mud and left washed up on the shore enough times that I know I can handle it.
I know that whatever happens, I’ll be okay. I can take care of myself just fine.
None of the bull shit I’ve been through has taught me to be guarded. None of it has hardened my heart the way people tell me it will.
I’m only 22, there’s still time, but I’m afraid to see what it would take for me to build walls the way others do.
I guess I’m just not afraid to risk it all for love. I’m not afraid to love all the pieces of someone. The thing about me is that whether friend or more than that, I want to see the dark places of people. I want to know what makes them tick. I want to know what they’re passionate about. I love watching someone light up when they talk about what they love. I love being able to assure people that their crazy is lovable. People are flawed, and I think we oftentimes forget that it’s okay to be that way.
I don’t want “perfect,” I’ve been there, tried that, didn’t bother to get the T-shirt, and we all saw where that got me.
The perfect life, the perfect relationship isn’t all its cracked up to be.
I don’t want that. Never have.
I think that for me, I would just eventually like to be with someone who gets that we all have baggage. We all have a past and things that hurt us and things that changed us. I guess I just want someone to accept that about me and understand that I’m willing to accept that about them.
I don’t know why I’m word vomiting all over the place right now. I don’t know what the point of writing all this is. There was just a little voice in my head telling me to word vomit.
I’ve been blocked because I’ve been avoiding my feelings. Well, sort of. I don’t know that I’m actually capable of avoiding my feelings.
I’ve been avoiding writing them down. I’ve been avoiding putting these stories to paper because I’m worried about hurting people.
How dumb is that? I’m worried about hurting people who had no regard for me. Who knew me, who knew how my heart works and shit on me anyways.
Seriously, I’m too sensitive for my own good. I care far too much.
I often wonder if there is even anyone else out there who gets it? Or am I just this crazy, oversensitive anomaly that is destined to end up with a broken heart over and over again?
Who the fuck knows.
Anyways, there are a million things that I’ve wanted to write. A million words to put on paper. A thousand stories to tell. They’re trying to claw their way out of me. My hand itches every time I pick up a pen.
But I haven’t told them because I’m too worried about other people’s feelings. My tears have stained numerous pages as I try to protect people who usually never even gave me the time of day.
I’m sensitive, but I’m strong. I’m loving, but I’m done with bull shit. I’m done with ghosting, pulling on heart strings and dishonesty.
So I return time and time again to my lover the ocean. I come back to the water to remember that life is hard. Life will knock you on your ass hundreds of times, but strength lies in your ability to get back up and keep fighting and keep loving.
And usually things are worth the risk.
I’ve been told that I need to get a thicker skin, that I need to stop being so willing to let people in.
That might be true, but I don’t think I’d be me anymore if I stopped feeling everything so intensely.
I’ve worked too hard to regain my sense of self in the last year to ever let that be taken from me again.
“Love can change the world in a moment, but what do I know?” –Ed Sheeran